"We don’t lose connection because we stop loving—we lose it because we stop observing."

Somewhere along the way, we stopped seeing.

Not because we lost our vision, but because we replaced reality with symbols. We see glasses and think: two circles, one line. A partner becomes “my husband.” A woman becomes “too much.” A person becomes a role, not a soul.

We don’t mean to do it.
We just get efficient.
And in that efficiency—we lose intimacy.

When was the last time you really looked at someone you love? Noticed the new freckles trickling across their face. The twitch of their mouth when they’re thinking. The way they touch a page or tilt their head when listening.

When we stop observing—we stop connecting. And when we stop connecting, we start assuming. Projecting. Resenting.

That’s why I teach people to write—not to become better writers, but better observers. To reclaim the details. To de-symbolize the world. To slow down and see what’s actually there—not what we’ve been taught to expect.

If you’re craving deeper connection… with yourself, with others, with life… try my free micro-course: Writing from the Bones. It’s a 4-part practice in noticing again. In feeling again. In remembering how to be real.

Because people are aching for conversation beneath the surface.
Let’s start having it.

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